Each year, International Men’s Day on 19 November provides a moment to recognise and celebrate the positive contributions that men make to their families, communities and wider society. It also serves as a reminder of the unique challenges many men face, including mental health struggles, social isolation and the experience of abuse or coercive control.
At the Domestic Abuse (DA) Alliance, we believe that anyone affected by domestic abuse deserves understanding, respect and access to the right support. This includes men who may feel overlooked, stigmatised or unsure where to turn. Marking International Men’s Day reaffirms that our services and partnerships are open to everyone, regardless of gender.
Why International Men’s Day Matters
International Men’s Day began in 1999 and has since grown into a global movement recognised in more than 80 countries. The UK theme for 2025 centres on men’s wellbeing, promoting positive male role models and highlighting issues that affect men’s lives. While the day often celebrates achievements and role models, it is equally important for raising awareness of the pressures men face that too often go unnoticed.
Men are less likely to seek help for emotional distress or relationship difficulties. According to the Office for National Statistics, around one in six to seven men in the UK will experience domestic abuse during their lifetime. Despite this, many feel unable to speak out due to fear of disbelief, shame or damaging stereotypes that suggest men cannot be victims.
These misconceptions can prevent men from getting the support they need. Some worry that reporting abuse will not be taken seriously. Others fear being judged or even blamed. International Men’s Day helps to challenge these barriers by encouraging open, honest conversations about men’s wellbeing and reminding everyone that abuse can affect anyone.
To explore these challenges in depth, explore our article: The impact of domestic abuse on male victims and survivors.
Recognising Male Survivors of Abuse
Male survivors often face complex emotions when coming to terms with abuse. They might minimise what has happened or assume that seeking help is a sign of weakness. In reality, recognising abuse and asking for support is a courageous and vital step.
Abuse against men can take many forms, including emotional manipulation, financial control, physical assault or coercive behaviour. It can occur in heterosexual or same-sex relationships and can deeply impact a person’s mental health, self-esteem and sense of safety.
Many men who experience abuse describe feeling isolated or uncertain about where to go for confidential advice. That is why organisations such as the DA Alliance and our partners at ManKind Initiative work to ensure there are clear, safe routes to support.
The ManKind Initiative is one of the longest-standing charities in the UK dedicated to supporting male victims of domestic abuse. Their confidential helpline and training resources have helped thousands of men access protection, counselling and legal guidance. Together, we share the belief that every survivor deserves to be heard and helped without judgment.
Our Commitment to Supporting All Survivors
Our work at the DA Alliance has always been guided by the principle that domestic abuse does not discriminate. We collaborate with a wide network of professionals, including police forces, legal partners and specialist organisations to make support accessible and straightforward for anyone affected by domestic abuse and violence.
Through our WeProtect platform, individuals can securely share their details and connect with a solicitor who specialises in obtaining legal protection such as a Non-Molestation Order or Occupation Order. By digitising the referral process, we reduce the delays to accessing protection and safety.
We understand that male survivors may be hesitant to reach out. Some fear that they will not be believed, while others may worry about how friends or colleagues will react. Our message to every survivor is simple: you are not alone and your experience matters. Whether you are male, female or non-binary, the impact of abuse is real and help is available.
Challenging the Stigma
One of the biggest obstacles for male survivors is the stigma that surrounds abuse. Cultural expectations can make it hard for men to admit vulnerability. Phrases like “man up” or “just leave” can discourage men from acknowledging abuse or seeking help. Society often portrays men as protectors, which can make it even harder for them to accept that they, too, might need protection.
Challenging this stigma starts with awareness. Talking openly about domestic abuse against men helps to break the silence and dispel harmful myths. When public figures, colleagues and communities discuss these issues, they create space for more men to come forward without fear of embarrassment.
We encourage everyone to listen without judgment. If someone shares that they are being controlled, threatened or harmed, the most important thing to do is believe them. Simple acts of compassion can make a lasting difference.
The Role of Employers and Communities
Employers and local communities also play a crucial part in supporting male survivors. Workplace awareness programmes, flexible policies and access to confidential advice can help men who are suffering in silence. Community organisations and local councils can also signpost survivors to trusted services such as the ManKind Initiative and the Men’s Advice Line.
Creating a supportive environment is not only about offering help when abuse happens. It is also about promoting healthy relationships, emotional literacy and respect. Teaching these values early on, in schools and community groups, helps build a culture where abuse of any kind is never tolerated.
Looking Ahead: A Shared Responsibility
International Men’s Day reminds us that everyone deserves to live free from fear. It is a day to celebrate positive masculinity, promote kindness and stand together against all forms of abuse. However this message should not be confined to one day each year.
Supporting male survivors requires sustained effort and collaboration. We remain committed to working with charities, law firms, statutory services and community partners to ensure that men who experience abuse are not left behind. We aim to create an inclusive support network where every survivor can rebuild their confidence and reclaim their independence.
We will continue to champion awareness through campaigns, partnerships and education, helping to dismantle the outdated beliefs that prevent men from asking for help. Together, we can shift the narrative from silence and stigma to understanding and support.
If You Need Help
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, help is available.
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ManKind Initiative Helpline: 01823 334244 (Monday to Friday, 10 am to 4 pm)
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Domestic Abuse Alliance: Visit our website and make a referral for free, confidential civil legal support
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In an emergency: Always call 999
No one should face abuse alone. On this International Men’s Day, and every day, we stand with male survivors and reaffirm our commitment to supporting anyone affected by domestic abuse.
